Question: Who is the intended audience?
Answer: I wrote this book with a focus on the following audiences:

Those who are doing well and want more from life.

Those who have heard about NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and want to learn more.

Parents, coaches, members of the helping professions or managers who are looking for new ways and techniques to feel good about themselves, accomplish what they desire and to assist others to do so as well.

Those who are about to take an NLP seminar and would like to have a solid grounding before beginning.

Those who have studied NLP and are looking for a basic NLP reference book.

Q: What is the book about?
A: The core of the book is an introduction to NLP, but it is much more than that. In the book, I speak to you from different perspectives as the situation warrants:

As a coach to assist you to open up your thinking about yourself and the world around you.
As a guide to assist you in getting a sense of what NLP is and isn’t.
As a trainer to assist you in understanding and using NLP techniques.
As a source of knowledge so that you have access to a broad range of NLP tips and techniques.
As a friend who has and continues to benefit from using NLP.

Throughout the book, I share my life experiences with you and ask questions of you so that you too can explore new possibilities in your life or in assisting others. You are provided with sufficient information and questions for you to explore the question “What if I used this in my life or in interactions with others?”

Q: Why are you the best person to write this book?
A: My original background – Undergraduate degrees in the pure sciences, PhD (Statistics), Informatics Professional, Certified Management Consultant – at first glance does not make me an obvious candidate to write this book. However, I have been on a personal journey of discovery of ‘who am I’ for over 20 years. During this period I have studied many different personal development methodologies, have transformed my own life and have helped many others to do so as well. I have been a certified NLP trainer and coach since 1996.

Q: How is this book different from other books on this topic?
A: I start with the comments of a book reviewer at (I have never had any contact with this person):

Ellerton is Brilliant, Concise, Precise, Lucid, and Comprehensive. This is an in-depth explanation of, journey through, and discovery of NLP in its most clear and most comprehensively engaging representation. By far the most comprehensive and thorough and easy-to-understand book on NLP. I’m still reading it (plan to read it cover to cover) and will constantly use it for reference.”

For the most part, the material is presented as if you were in a training session with me. That is, I address the four major learning styles: Why? (discussion), What? (teaching), How? (coaching) and What if? (self-discovery). For those who learn best by discussing the reasons why you would use NLP, I often present the material in a discussion format and ask questions of you to stimulate your thinking. Each aspect of NLP and the tips and techniques are presented in enough detail to satisfy those who prefer to explore the question “What is NLP?” The basic concepts and techniques of NLP are described in sufficient detail for you know how to apply them in your own life or with others.

Q: Is there anything else we should know about this book?
A: Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up is available from all online stores such as and If it is not on the shelf of your favorite bookstore, it can easily be ordered by them.

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